Don’t you just love it when seemingly idle chit chat turns into an enlightening conversation? It happened to me a couple of weeks ago. I had a chat with a group of clients about why some small business owners resist asking for help – particularly from a business coach.
The usual suspects — no time, no money, what do they know about my business — were brought up. And then Jen said, “All of those are really just excuses. The truth is to work with a coach I had to say out loud that I needed help. I had to give myself permission to be vulnerable, and that scared the hell out of me.”
With that one confession, the conversation broke open. Turns out there was a lot of initial fear of being exposed going around the table in the early days of their coaching experience. Fear of being found out. Fear that things were not going right; which meant, they were doing something wrong. Exposing a chink in the armor.
I get that. The first time I asked for help, I knew that I had to come clean. (Yes coaches need help too, and yes we hire coaches). I had to admit, especially to me first, that things weren’t getting better on their own, and I needed help. I had to get out of my head and explore a new perspective.
Once I fessed up and started to do something about it – whew! Things seemed to be so much better even before they actually improved. Lugging that armor around had worn me out.
This is not a pitch to hire a coach. It is a strong recommendation to seek help when you need it. Frankly we probably need it more than we are willing to admit. What if you were a bit more open, turned to a colleague and said, “Hey can I bounce something off of you?” Believe me, it can be a game-changer.